I agree with the OP in every way.
I have been gaming since the mid 80's and the hardcore vs casual thing is insane to me to be honest.
In all my years of gaming i have never seen this kind of division and/or arguments in the world of gaming with this casual vs hardcore thing. It may have something to do with me not being into the whole forum things till recently, I dont know.
IMHO, and my HO only, it seems to me this entire hardcore vs casual thing has been a response by the PS3/360 fan boys irritation that the Wii is the dominant system this time.
Now im not hatting i like the 360 a lot, i would own one if not for my good computer. I respect the PS3, although i would never buy one. Im not a PS hatter either as i owned the PS1 and got a PS2 on launch day and loved them both.
There is some truth to the fact that the Wii apeals to the casual player no doubt. So did the PS1 and PS2. I hate to burst the hardcore bubble but theres not nearly enough of you to support a system. You NEED the casual player to buy some of your system.
This is my view on this hardcore thing. In the past i would have considered myself "hardcore" but today the hardcore seem to act like a bunch of stuck up elitists. I dont wanna be grouped with them anymore.