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  1. vashivihan

    vashivihan Let There Be Rock

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    heres the deal. whenever something bad happens at my house, the blame is put on me and usually its correct. but on those rare instances when even if i am not the one to blame, my parents wont believe me. when i yell at them that i didnt do anything wrong, my mom says, "your yelling shows that you are guilty". what are you supposed to do, just keep quiet?
     
  2. surfinrach90

    surfinrach90 I GOT A JAR OF DIRT.

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    Just keep calm.

    Really shouting about the place and getting worked up about things never used to work for me either. Then I grew up and realised I just needed to let it go over my head. Now if they blame me for something, (which they often still do, even though I'm only really here at night just to sleep) I just tell them it wasn't, and if they don't want to believe me then that's their problem. You should try it. Just let it go over you man.
     
  3. vashivihan

    vashivihan Let There Be Rock

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    i even did that in couple of scenarios but still they dont believe me. if i keep qiiet, they say that he is quiet cause he is guilty. lol
     
  4. surfinrach90

    surfinrach90 I GOT A JAR OF DIRT.

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    Lol, yeah it's frustrating.
    Just tell them you know you wasn't responsible so you're not worried. :)
     
  5. Chewy

    Chewy Shmunior Member

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    Just lay face first on the ground with your arms at your side.

    A guilty person would not do that.
     
  6. zapasant

    zapasant Where is your god now?

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    only a guilty person would make a thread about it!

    GUILTY!
     
  7. Brawny

    Brawny Anglophobiphile

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    You brought it upon yourself then.
     
  8. rukus

    rukus WiiChat Member

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    yelling won't help the situation.
    have you repeatedly lied about not doing something that you did in hopes they wouldnt find out it was you?
    if so, then you backed yourself into this corner.
    next time theyre yelling at you, dont say anything until they stop yelling at you. stay calm.
     
  9. DRMARIO

    DRMARIO Controversial.

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    Precisely what I was going to write.


    If you want people to believe that you don't do stupid things, then why do them?
    This is like the boy who cried wolf - you can't complain about your parents, when you brought this on your self.
     
  10. Fox

    Fox Super Mοderator
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    Tell them their wrong, if they don't beleive you, just "whatever" and walk away. Seriously, what's the worst that could happen? "Oh noez! I'm grounded!"
     
  11. LeWaffles

    LeWaffles CUSTOM

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    Try to Talk to them about your problem when you aren't angry or in trouble. Just casually bring it up.
     
  12. Foxy

    Foxy Super Ninjarator
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    Hadouken or Shorukyn, either is a respective alternative to the above.
     
  13. rukus

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    worst response so far. very disrespectful
     
  14. Gikoku Harakami

    Gikoku Harakami ミュージック

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    *Agrees with Adam & Rachy*

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    You could be like my little brother and attempt some convoluted reason to explain (in the most arrogant manner possible) why it couldn't be your fault.

    On second thoughts, don't be like my little brother.
     
  16. mizzouHHR

    mizzouHHR looking for ACCF friends

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    This is coming from a parent, so I'm on the other side of the coin. To yell back is the worst thing you could do, besides saying "whatever" and walking away. If you were my child and did that, you would not ever want to try that again. You have to learn to respect your elders, especially your parents. Believe it or not, there is always a reason for what we do, and it is always to try and teach you something, or make you a better person. You know, teaching right from wrong. Just stay calm and tell your side. If you are at fault, man up and admit it. You will be better off in the long run. Remember the truth is ALWAYS the best choice. The most important thing is to be honest and accept the consequences of your actions. I understand how you feel. I'm an only child, so I was blamed for everything also, and as you, I was usually at fault. When you become an adult and look back, you will thank your parents for what they are doing now.
     
  17. Gikoku Harakami

    Gikoku Harakami ミュージック

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    Not always, have you forgotten about the existence of abusive parents? Really, I would say respect your elders, but don't blindly respect them just because they're your parents. In my opinion, one shouldn't respect his/her parents when the parent abuses them a lot for no good reason. There are parents out there who enjoy abusing their children, be it physically, or verbally, like constant accusations for something the child never did and then ignorantly beating them up/punishing them afterwards regardless if they tell the truth.

    One of my friend's unfortunately goes through that, because he follows the bible and respects his parents no matter what. So, they take advantage of him and his kindness.

    Telling the truth is not always the right thing to do. Sometimes a lie is more good than telling the truth.
     
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    What did you do when the blame is put on you? If you fight it and make up a different reason then obviously your parents are going to suspect you. If you've lied to them before, then they're going to think that you can lie to them again. It's just common logic, you'd do it if you had someone like you as your kid. Admit it some time and apologize.

    If my parents blame something on me then I normally just say that I didn't do it, because I don't do anything around the house. So, um, I would earn some respect from your parents. They know what they're doing.
     
  19. mizzouHHR

    mizzouHHR looking for ACCF friends

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    In the case of abusive parents, you have a point, however, that is a very small percentage of parents, and I don't think that is the case here. If abuse is the problem, then the proper authorities need to be involved, and the parents should be prosecuted to the full extent of the law.

    As far as honesty, I can't think of any case where honesty is not the best policy. Lies lead to more lies and pretty soon, you don't know what the truth is anymore.
     
  20. Gikoku Harakami

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    Well, look at it this way. Imagine a world where every single person told the truth and were completely honest with everything. For alot of people, the truth hurts and honesty is at times hard to handle. Would you really want to know what everyone thinks about you. Imagine a completely honest guy walking up to a girl, and saying.. "I'll be honest, you look like a guy." Boy, imagine if the Government started telling the truth.

    You should see how honest everyone is about Rumer Willis' face (Bruce Willis' daughter). That'll definitely make her life a lot better when it pressures her into wanting plastic surgery, more **** for her parents to deal with.

    Always telling your parents the truth, what if you have parents that are incredibly strict, like one of those religious extremist parents. A teenage son who's stuck with a dilemma of either telling his parents the truth that he's gay, or keeping it a secret for fear of how they'll react. Unlucky, he tells the truth, and they flip out in major disappointment and anger, praying to God where they went wrong.. and then probably disowning the poor kid.

    Say you get caught doing something at work, you either tell the truth and get fired, or you lie about it and save your job. Lying about something does not make you fail to realize what truth is anymore, you know what truth is... you just don't want to tell it for the fear of bad things that'll happen. There's a large amount of parents out there who lie to their kids to make them feel better.

    Kid: Mommy, all the kids at school call me stupid.

    Mother: Well, let's be honest.. you are pretty stupid.
     

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