yeah that is a hard thing to do but they will have to deal with it/.....eventuallyZeLdA4LiFe said:yea...... and then ill get a beat down by my dad saying.... no son of mine is gonna be a faggot.... and then my bros and sis will look down on me (my other sis that i havent told)
That's huge. It's something I had to tell my mom too, but she was really cool about it. I feel bad for your situation. Maybe as you're saying it, you can explain that it isn't something you chose, because you would never choose to upset your family on purpose or have them shun you. I firmly believe nobody would actively choose to be anything but straight. It's human nature to want to be accepted, loved, respected. Coming out can destroy those things. It's just completely illogical for anyone to think it's a choice. Tell your dad you knew how he'd react and you'd never provoke him to be disgusted with you, that it's something you can't help or change, just like your gender or ethnicity. Tell him you'll be careful and that you're still the same person, just no longer keeping a debilitating secret.ZeLdA4LiFe said:anyone got advice on how to tell your family your bisexual??
im guessing when you come out its never an easy thing so at least having a reason and a will to come out is my best advice. aka you found someone you like and start seeing them, theyre a reason to come out.registerednerd said:wow, this thread got hijacked rather quickly :lol: , but that's OK, it's a subject worth being clear over...
If you haven't already, it's easiest to start with friends, then work your way up to the family. I'm not sure what my parents will say once I come out to them, I know they disapprove of the idea, but I do know that my mom has some fairly close friends who are gay, she's backed me my entire life, once the time comes, I'll probably go to her first.
lol, come to think of it, I actually brought my last boyfriend home with me. We just passed each other off as "best friends" for our parents (I know of others who do the same thing as well). I'm not too horribly worried about it at this point for me, my time will come eventually, it's just not now.Sovieto said:im guessing when you come out its never an easy thing so at least having a reason and a will to come out is my best advice. aka you found someone you like and start seeing them, theyre a reason to come out.